If you want to be successful, you have to be careful about who your friends are. In the last post about success factors, I talked about the importance of befriending people who are where you want to be. The corollary of that is that you may need to change your friends.
This can be painful, especially for women who thrive on relationships and often feel guilty when they think they’re responsible for hurting somebody’s feelings. However, it may be essential if you really want to live your dreams.
If you are a recovering alcoholic, hanging out with drunks in bars is not going to help you get you where you want to be. Along the same lines, if you have a dream to make six figures in your own business and most of your friends constantly complain about the economy and express a fear of losing their jobs, you will need to pull back from these relationships. This is critical if a so-called friend criticizes your dream or tells you that it’s impossible.
It’s bad enough to hear that kind of negativity from family. When we started telling relatives that Jerry was going to quit his job and we were going to live out in the country, we got some looks, let me tell you! My stepdad remarked, “Well, at least you’re young enough that if things don’t work out, you can always get a job.” I think my father-in-law is waiting for the ball to drop on us at any moment.
The nice thing is, both these men, well-meaning as they may be, live close to a thousand miles away in either direction. But if you have local friends that you see on a regular basis, frequently making disparaging comments about your goals and dreams, it’s time to make new friends!
Why is this important to your success? You become like the people you hang out with the most. If your friends are cynical and skeptical and walk around with a victim mentality, you will eventually catch that attitude. And that kind of attitude never leads anyone to fulfill their dreams.
The people you hang out with should be people who support and encourage you – and whom you support and encourage with whatever they want to do. Assuming, of course, it’s legal and healthy. 😉
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