Yesterday, I was looking through old blog posts to remind myself about what I’ve already written. I couldn’t always tell by the title what the post was about, so I had to open some of them up and skim over them.
One such post had my jaw hanging open. Did I really used to think that?, I wondered.
The post was about three years old, and I was talking about how I was, going forward, going to punish B to “make” him obey and be respectful.
For obvious reasons, I’m not going to link back to that post. I should go ahead and trash it, really. Because not more than two months later, we began unschooling, and lo and behold, all the “disrespect” and “disobedience” miraculously disappeared.
I know now that I was forcing B to try to learn in a way that wasn’t appropriate for his picture-thinking brain. His brain actually may not have been ready to succeed with all the tasks I was asking him to do.
I had a lot to learn about patience, trust, and unconditional love.
I’m not saying I’ve arrived. But in the past three years, I’ve grown a lot.
And not just in understanding the needs of my son. In understanding my own needs, of how God created me. For example, I think it’s been less than a year since I discovered I am not only a Highly Sensitive Person, but also an empath. These discoveries have explained a lot about how I behave and feel, as well as why I’ve been experiencing perimenopause more acutely than many women do.
And if you go back even further to the very beginning of this blog, I’ve changed even more.
And so, this blog has to change, too
I wonder, as I continue to explore the old posts on this blog, how many more will make me cringe, will provoke my hand to move the cursor to the “trash” link underneath the post title in my blog dashboard.
One thing I don’t wonder is what to do with this blog. It’s been sitting here mostly idle for a few months. I thought for a while I was going to abandon it altogether.
However, I’ve decided to begin blogging regularly again. But I’ve tweaked its purpose. Because I have changed and grown, this blog has to change direction. Sure, I could start a brand-new blog, but this one already has momentum. Besides, its name, “Live Your Dreams,” encompasses its overall objective, which is to encourage people to take the appropriate actions to live lives of greater freedom.
As you can see from the new header, though, I’m going to be narrowing my focus to families.
One reason is that over the past several years, my passion to encourage parents to educate their children at home has exploded. Plus I’ve developed a heart for other parents like me and J, who have children who would be labeled and marginalized in school.
The other reason I’m changing my focus is now that I’ve been a parent for thirteen years, I realize that couples without children and childless single people have the world as their oyster. It’s much easier for them work toward their financial goals, make radical changes to their diet, move to a new location, and so on.
Once you bring children into the mix, life gets more complicated. The income you generate disappears faster. You have to consider the needs and wants of the entire family when you’re looking at making a major change. You get a lot busier.
The good news is, even when you have children, there are always options. There are always choices you can make that will improve the overall health, well-being, and happiness of your family. My goal on this blog is to show you some of those options.
To that end, I’m going to talk about topics such as:
**Healthy eating (and specifically, things like helping picky eaters to eat healthier).
**Religion-free spirituality (in other words, having a relationship with the Creator without subjecting yourself to the manipulation and deception of institutional religion).
**Home education, particularly unschooling.
**Improving child-parent relationships with love and trust, rather than traditional child discipline (which fits into unschooling).
**Overcoming obstacles to your financial goals.
Generally, I’m going to do my best to encourage and inspire families to improve their lives and relationships, as well as show parents how they can pursue more fulfilling and enjoyable careers without sacrificing the important aspects of family life.
Come along with me, then, and get on the journey to live the life of your dreams. Or, at least, a life that looks a little closer to it. 😉